You’ve got this mama

As mums, we beat ourselves up on a normal day. Let alone on days like these.

Telling ourselves that we should have done more.  Should have spent more time with the kids. Shouldn’t have shouted so much today. Should have helped more with the science project.

Surrounded by constant images and posts of parents who are doing amazing things with their children, we live our lives under the weight of impossible self-expectations, trying to be everything, to everybody, and doing it all to 100%. Mum, partner, manager, teacher, cook, cleaner, party co-ordinator.. we give even the Duracell bunny a run for his money.

At first I thought it would be easy.. more time at home, making up for time away from the kids (another mum guilt of feeling I returned from maternity too early... every time!). Taking up new hobbies.. the ukulele... crochet... fitness regime... but the picture is quite different.

That idyllic, rose tinted image, making dinosaur models with the toddler, the baby babbling away, the house blooming from the smell of fresh banana bread cooking away in the oven.

The reality... I’m scraping playdough out of the carpet, the baby is screaming as I won’t let him eat it, and I’m starting to question that using black bananas may not have been the best ideas as the rather choking smell of burnt cake billows from the kitchen.

Zoom call? Maybe.. if I can hide from the kids for long enough.

Zoom call with video? No chance. I wouldn’t inflict this sleep deprived face on anyone.

Only last week I hit a wall, and if truth be told, it wasn’t the first time. It was just the first time I felt I could tell the world. What I heard back? That it was ok. That it was normal.

Everyone’s experiences are different, and that’s what makes us the same.

We are up, we are down. We are stuck somewhere in between feeling ever so slightly bleurgh... you know, that “I don’t know how I’m feeling right now and I haven’t even got the energy to label it”.

One key thing.. I am learning. Ok, maybe not the ukulele or crochet as first planned, but more important lessons in life. 

I’m learning that sometimes doing nothing is everything.

That sometimes not having the answer, is the answer.

That the little things really are the big things.

So if you’re having a wobble, or are feeling overwhelmed, just know this...

Whatever you are doing, it is enough. You are enough.

You’ve got this mama.

A bit about Bounce…

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